2002-11-19 - 2:00 p.m.
[Disclaimer: The following may be the Dad in me talking -- there's no judgementalism intended]
Hey... Concerning the previous entry: check out this rap song when you get a chance, OK? It's called That Kind of Girl, by DC Talk.
Seriously though, no guy wants to settle down and raise a family with some girl who is not "virtuous" at least in her outward conduct. So, ladies, if that is your desire, please consider the words of this song.
If he does partner up with a woman who has not kept herself from pre-marital sex he ends up eventually disrespecting her or finding some way of keeping you sexually engaged and relationally limited. I mean, think about it: Why should he value your sexuality if you don't? It's sad to say but this condition is actually a precondition. It's formed in the pre-marital years. We cultivate unfaithfulness. We know more about breaking up and getting out of a relationship than we do about staying together. We allow the weeds of undisciplined, impatient and immoral practice to infest our secret garden of fidelity to our future mate.
Some of you reading this think I'm talking about those loose, skanky, sleazies that are probably coming to your mind right now. But I'm not talking about them! I'm talking about you if you have sexual partners outside of marriage. You are NO BETTER!
Seriously. Think about it. Is a one time cold-blooded murderer any better than a serial killer? Not by far.
Men, even the players, if they have any self-respect at all, know that they do not want to form lasting relationships with a girl that will go to bed with them on the first night. If you don't "get down" on the first night and a relationship is to be, it will still take more than your new-found love and feelings of faithfulness to overcome the misdeeds of your past. What goes around comes around, as they say. If you think you can escape from your past without major effort you are sadly mistaken. There are always inroads to every life. The best way to ensure faithfulness to your life partner is to start practicing it right now. Otherwise, you're selling your marriage short.
All men secretly desire a good and virtuous woman (as well as a sexy one!) to build a family with. Women have been duped into thinking that men will want them more if they are sexually loose. Sure they may get the immediate attention of men who are weak-willed, but they will not retain respect from any of them, in the long run.
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